I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's your professional deformation?
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    15 days ago

    I’ve been working in high acuity psychiatry for 10 years. I notice when doors don’t click shut behind me and if I don’t hear a solid click or an electric lock whirring sound I get the urge to check the handle, even at home / in my apartment complex. I can feel people behind me on the street if they’re closer than about 20 feet back. I don’t like sitting without a wall behind me (it was weird going back to school and explaining that my ADHD preferential seating accommodation was the back row, not the front).

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's an artificial limitation you put on yourself that has improved your personal life?
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    22 days ago

    “Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary?” Shoot for two but make sure it’s at least one. And if you ever by chance come across a trifecta, don’t let it escape unsaid!

    I also notice working in mental healthcare that a lot of my coworkers have realized some of the patients really do need “tough love” but they don’t realize that the Love part is critical. And it’s obviously not romantic love but also not even love in any personal sense. It’s love in the better version of the Bible sense where you should love your fellow human beings. When you say something that someone isn’t going to like hearing for their own good, you need to start with a practical statement of why you’re saying it out of love.

    So I’ll say “I don’t just want to give you ice cream today; I want you to know how to ask other people when you leave here. I’m going to give you about fifteen minutes to go to your room and breathe, then you can come back and get in line and ask again.” While some of my coworkers will just say “no I’m not gonna let you talk to me like that” which isn’t wrong, but also isn’t actually tough love because they forgot the love.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Want to buy a Tarot Deck for my partner, What should I get?
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    3 months ago

    My rec was gonna be the biddy tarot since it’s a modern / inclusive version of the rws which is some of the most common imagery used in themed decks so if she decides to get a Pokémon themed deck or whatever later the imagery will translate well (I have a cat meme deck and an emoji deck in addition to my traditional rws deck). Comparing the imagery across themed interpretations of the RWS is FASCINATING and has taken up a significant part of my last two years. The biddy is about 2x what you’re asking though so let me see what else I can find…

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoLinux@lemmy.ml•Shouting into the void
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    4 months ago

    Honestly it’s really helped me with spreadsheet formulae and more complex regex search and replace terms. And it’s so pleasant and patient about all of it. So many of those spaces are DEEPLY toxic to noobs and when I paste the error back to it it’s like oh it looks like the regex you’re using doesn’t support that! Let’s try…