May I ask, why did you like 100 years of solitude? Did you read it in Spanish or translated to another language? I read it in Spanish and can appreciate a lot of good things in it, but I always wonder how it feels like for people who don’t have a latin/Spanish background. Perhaps you do, I don’t know. Still curious!

I only read the Count, and I loved it

Yeah I often get specific cravings. They’re usually in the following categories:

• sweets (not too often but when I do, I usually hit chocolate)

• fruits (sometimes I crave sweeter, sometimes acidic) I think the water and fiber here plays a role because when I crave these the chocolate doesn’t fix it, and isn’t enjoyable

• protein ( eggs or any meat, dairy doesn’t cut it)

• fatty stuff (here I’ll go for cheese, butter, peanut butter, perhaps canned kippers if I got some or if the only thing available is chocolate I’ll take it)

• very salty stuff ( green olives, prosciutto, rarely chips, I get what I can)

Nuts are sometimes good at quenching protein and fat cravings but many times it won’t work.

Hey, what you say is true, but I still find value in the opinions of a bunch of strangers. It’s not professional, yet it helps me see what the majority of people would think in my shoes. It’s a check-in with reality in a way. I don’t think I could get that talking to a single person no matter how good they are. They’re two completely different things.

Thank you!

I agree, I wasn’t planning to monologue, but yeah.

Thanks. I don’t know where I got my sources, possibly internet experts, some of my friends, my mother, other women I’ve met briefly.

I am a recluse practically, and we’ve been meeting just the two of us so there would be no toxic environment or anything. The one with stakes to lose is me, since we work in a similar industry (well atm I’m on retail but hopefully I can find a job doing what I like again) and word spreads fast. I already have two embarrassing experiences with people who are in the industry and it does NOT look helpful at all when applying for jobs. I’m always wondering if any of those guys is ever reviewing applications and if that has any impact on it.

But what you say is true though. I hate this so much

We’ve been hanging out a few times, but it wasn’t “a date” even though it was just the two of us most times. We don’t see or talk as frequently as people who are about to start dating do though. I was hoping to build some momentum but from the replies here I’m getting the idea that I’m going to have to man up and ask him on a date formally.

This has already happened… We can hang out. It’s taking things one step forward the tricky part. Guess I’m going to have to take my chances and find yet again another excuse to hang out, and just say it. I’m getting tired of feeling like this

It’s not me downvoting you btw. Maybe you are right, perhaps I’m not mentally prepared to handle it. At least I know what to talk about next time I see my therapist

I’ll see what I can do. Maybe I’m too self conscious about coming with something out of the blue.

We tend to walk a lot around shops, or have a meal somewhere, or sometimes hang at a pub with his work mates. Occasionally a movie night. Got more suggestions for hanging out? I’m all eyes

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I’m open to suggestions, especially on how to spot a good moment to ask deep questions. My brain freezes when he’s around, preparing myself would help

Thanks. I appreciate knowing first hand from a guy who didn’t make the first move AND still got to stay with her for a long time; all other stories of girls making the first move I’ve heard either don’t work or end in very short term relationships.

I think I’m not being demonstrative enough, and he probably thinks I’m not interested. There is enough reason for that. But it could also be that he’s not wanting to commit to anything so he’s not asking me anything. I dread this second option. I’m rambling already. What I’m trying to say, in response to your account of not getting the flirts, is that there was some flirting on both sides but also plenty of mixed signals.

Ahhh fk.

I appreciate the replies though.

I don’t know about Margaret Cho, guess I’ll have to look it up

Thank you

36F 30M, both neurodivergents if that also plays a role. Neither particularly lucky in love, though finding people to date isn’t hard for either. Both in many ways immature so I don’t take personally you presuming I’m a teenager. I absolutely feel as dumb as one to the point of asking this question. Thanks for the answer.

Depends. It’s a mix of all the reasons you’ve mentioned, and I’m sure this will vary from person to person. For me, high fidelity audio matters only with headphones, and if I’m listening to music. I can absolutely tell there is a difference with speakers but I don’t enjoy them as much so I don’t care as much.

Similarly I’m not much of a HD4k+ person when it comes to video. I do see the difference but for the most part my brain will filter most visual noise, issues and distortion away while I’m engaged in narrative. I don’t need large TVs nor too much high resolution. PC monitors/laptops/phone screens? I want every pixel you can give me, the higher the resolution the better. Completely different experience than TV. I’m annoyed when I can see the pixels on a screen I’m working on.

I’m with you on the binoculars and microscopes. Yeah, quality does make a huge difference and I would absolutely get the best if I can afford it.

Food- I’m a lazy cook and very picky about condiments. I really enjoy most foods plainly. I don’t mind if my stir fry got a bit soggy or if I forgot to salt the roast. I’ll eat it all the same and be content with it like it had been perfect. For me to really appreciate the difference in food quality you need to add significantly more than 1% effort, so I leave that to professional chefs.

Thanks for sharing - I’m glad to know this is an improvement for you in spite of everything. I hope the pain eases soon!

+1 wondering why someone in their 40s had to have all teeth extracted. I’m really sorry.