As a man, I’ve found this applies to almost any traditionally* feminine activity.
Thank you for typing this all out. It was lovely and inspiring to read.
Thinking one step further: Even if I somehow got into MENSA (unlikely), I can’t imagine ever saying, “I see you have a MENSA discount…” ugh.
Don’t forget racists. Plenty of those are drawn to the Mensa labels, too.
This is worth the entire post and more. I’m chuckling while my kid gives me weird looks from the other room.
10 years ago I wouldn’t have imagined this, but this is me every time I have to use Windows (e.g., occasionally for work) or help someone else with it.
According to almost every photo I take, about 3 degrees off.
Pretty sure this is a psychophysics question, though I don’t know that field well enough to know what’s there.
If it helps, you’re not alone. I’ve spent decades of my life pursuing a career, and in the past five or so years I’ve come to realize I will never accomplish the things I used to dream about, like making an impact in my little field, etc. It’s a really, really unpleasant realization. The only silver lining I can find for myself (and it is helpful) is that I can let go of the “must excel” and “must go above and beyond” mentalities. It frees up time and mental resources.
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The phrase “based off of.” It’s always been stupid. I’m still ahead of the curve because many people still think it’s OK. It’s not.
Depends on where in Canada. Toronto? Vancouver? Montreal? Oy, insane real estate prices. Bumfuck, Alberta? Manitoba? Rural anywhere? Much cheaper.
And regardless of the price I could afford the utility and maintenance on a condo or apartment in a major city in Canada (if I could ever afford one) much more easily than on a castle in France. Not a great comparison.
My kid would like to still have a dad. One who is, ideally, not in prison or dead.
I’m sure it’s a hard problem to solve. However, I’m still not using a product missing a critical feature just because the developer found it too difficult to include the feature. Sympathy to the developer but also I need that feature.
I’ve taught statistics for over 20 years. I flipflop on this constantly, sometimes in the middle of a sentence. Even more disturbing: I don’t have a consistent position, at least grammatically, on whether it’s singular or plural.
This is a great list and thanks for posting it.
Also, the pixelfed guy needs to give up full control of his project (no matter how nicely or reasonably he argues “not yet”). I have asked on mastodon and nobody seems to know of anyone else who truly understands the project so if he dies or gets disappeared the project… Dies? Maybe? More concerningly, it isn’t open source. He cotes good reasons for this (the massive labor to refactor and whatever else goes into open sourcing a functioning project), but he also occasionally humblebrags about being offered huge sums of money to sell it to corporations. I suspect it will become corporate at some point if he doesn’t open source it soon.
I don’t think that works on shared hosting (at least not without similar workarounds and tweaks), but I hear that the AIO method and snap both work really well if you have root access on the machine.
I absolutely would not trust myself, but I also feel deeply that I should be allowed to test this hypothesis with lived experience.
Speak for yourself.
Feeling this very hard. It took me a few decades to find a partner like that. Very happy you have one.
“I have no response to that.”