One thing that bluesky did very well was abstracting the decentralisation (i know, its not really decentralised, bear with me) was having “apps” be centralised. What if we just pointed people towards a lemmy.app thing and that had a server as default?
Alexandrite.app does this, but it defaults to lemmy.world which is a bit of a dealbreaker.
Edit: By “app” I mean client.
You kind of point out the problem. Which instance should be the default? Some would say lw, but you already discounted that.
Well, one that can handle the load. Lemmy.world is struggling as is.