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  • NicolaHaskell@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlAm I a bad person?
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    17 hours ago

    I’ll tap in for Brother Bear!

    What are you trying to solve here beyond indulging guilt? Your last sentence is outright asking to be told you’re bad. If you want validation or excuse for that you can go to confession or seek diagnosis (which might fairly fit into your plan, I’m not judging).

    You say, “If you steal from someone … saying sorry doesn’t do much for me because if you were sorry, you wouldn’t have done it in the first place.” I hear, “avoidance”. Apologies are promises, commitments, and covenants, not regret and remorse. Simply Feeling Bad is the relinquished barfly’s philosophy and doesn’t accomplish much but prolonging the bad feeling.

    Talking anonymously online or in person can be a healthy start to validate and work through both the stealing and the secrecy, but growing beyond those releases all The Stuff so you can exist honestly and authentically with your pack.