“This isn’t a meeting about the budget per se”
“This isn’t exactly a meeting about the budget”
If you finish those sentences, it becomes clear why per se is used:
“This isn’t a meeting about the budget per se, it’s a meeting about how much of the budget is spent on bits of string”
“This isn’t exactly a meeting about the budget, it’s a meeting about how much of the budget is spent on bits of string”
In this situation, using per se provides a more natural sentence flow because it links the first part of the sentence with the second. It’s also shorter and fewer syllables.
“Steve’s quite erudite.”
“Steve’s quite intellectual.”
I think intellectual might be a closer synonym, but intellectual often has more know-it-all connotations than erudite which seems to often refer to a more pure and cerebral quality.
“Tom and Jerry is a fun cartoon because of the juxtaposition of the relationship between cat and mouse.”
“Tom and Jerry is a fun cartoon because of the side by side oppositeness of the relationship between cat and mouse that is displayed”
For those to say precisely the same thing it would have to be more like the above which doesn’t really roll off the tongue.
“I don’t understand, can you elucidate that?”
“I don’t understand, can you explain?”
Elucidate just means to make something clear in general, explaining something usually inherently implies a linguistic, verbal, explanation, unless otherwise stated.
Honestly, these all seem like very reasonable words to me for the most part. I can understand not using them in some contexts, but for the most part, words exist for a reason, to describe something slightly differently, and it takes forever to talk and communicate if we only limit ourselves to the most basic unnuanced terms.
You’re talking about the people who lowered a car from a rocket crane onto the surface of another planet, you can be thoughtfully critical, but their technical record has earned them a lot more than surface level dismissal.