• Victor@lemmy.world
    5·
    1 year ago

    What the fuck is this meme, honestly? What’s with all the femboy stuff? There’s so many ordinary people using Linux. I don’t get it. And there seems to be something against Arch Linux users in particular? I use Arch and have a wife and two kids. Am I not normal? Should I become a femboy, fellas?

    • UnfortunateShort@lemmy.world
      3·
      1 year ago

      First came programmer socks, then Rust was invented, and now (fe)men are taking matters into their own hands, correcting the gender gap in IT themselves. What’s not to understand here?

      Seriously tho, I don’t think it’s against anyone. It’s just a meme, probably originating from a high share of queer people in the IT domain and the rising popularity of anime and manga culture, where femboys are sometimes idealised.

      • azertyfun@sh.itjust.works
        2·
        1 year ago

        It’s just a generational difference.

        The Gen Xers get really confused because to them a stereotypical “computer nerd” is (was) a greasy 35 year old in his mom’s basement which is covered in RMS posters who would unironically 741k l1k3 7h15.

        South Park WoW guy

        To us zoomers a stereotypical “computer nerd” is a proudly neuroatypical GNC queer with a body pillow of their waifu.

        Programming socks

      • Victor@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        I take it that’s why Linux users become femboys, because they “can’t get laid/are incels”. Maybe I’m misunderstanding the premise of the meme.

        • PeterPoopshit@lemmy.world
          2·
          1 year ago

          Just because I use Arch doesn’t mean I can’t get laid. I mean… I can’t get laid. But not because I use Arch.

        • reddithalation@sopuli.xyz
          2·
          1 year ago

          Nah it’s more about pointing out how groups of people that are into tech like linux, programming etc, seem to have a lot of lgbtq people. Anecdotally, I have seen a lot programming communities with an oddly large number of lgbtq people in them.

      • Steak@lemmy.ca
        12·
        1 year ago

        Most real woman don’t wanna marry a guy who fantasizes about being a weird little catboy.

    • CAVOK@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      Very weird. Started with Slackware back in 97 or so. Still not a femboy and no desire to be one.

      Maybe if I switched to arch?

    • themaninblack@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 year ago

      Really the anime and chicks with dicks on this website. It’s enough to make one explode with sexual desire for a boy toy.

    • Perhapsjustsniffit@lemmy.ca
      21·
      1 year ago

      Agreed Lemmy is rife with this shit. So much femboi fucking manga anime or whatever they call it. Cool you do you but fuck off with involving everyone else in your kink. I’m just an old fat married dude with kids trying to learn stuff.

      • OldWoodFrame@lemm.ee
        3·
        1 year ago

        As long as we’re careful here. People can be however they want to be. If you’re saying people shouldn’t be making memes that assume all people are like them, yes. If you’re saying living how they want is “involving everyone else in your kink” we’re getting into iffy territory.

        • Perhapsjustsniffit@lemmy.ca
          11·
          1 year ago

          I’ll be careful. Keep your kinks where they belong. No matter who the fuck you are. Stop forcing them on communities they do not belong.

          • OldWoodFrame@lemm.ee
            1·
            1 year ago

            Again, sure, but dressing with a feminine aesthetic is not a kink any more than being goth is a kink. People don’t have to abide by your gender norms.

            • Perhapsjustsniffit@lemmy.ca
              2·
              1 year ago

              Whatever man. They can gender all they want it has nothing to do with it. Sorry I used the wrong words to justify my distain. I could give a fuck how you or anyone else lives their life. I’m not anti anything but greed, genocide and pushing personal ideals like this onto others without warrant. If it was a “Christian” pushing it would be the same response.

                • Perhapsjustsniffit@lemmy.ca
                  0·
                  1 year ago

                  This thread insanely funny to me. I wear a dress every day as a man. Don’t even own pants. Not to be a femboi but because it’s comfortable as fuck. Yet here we are. I don’t give a fuck who or what you are into but pushing it and projecting it onto me is not cool from anyone.

      • Victor@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        Yes. I subscribe to Linux memes to get memes about Linux, not femboys. It’s not relatable at all for me. Guess I’ll rethink my subscription. Maybe I don’t belong anymore.

    • Huschke@lemmy.world
      21·
      1 year ago

      So what you are saying is that you are still in the middle of the picture. Got it.

      • Victor@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        Because I don’t want to. And I don’t want to be made like I want to, nor should.

        • TurboWafflz@lemmy.world
          1·
          1 year ago

          Do you like genuinely think people are trying to turn you into a femboy? No one is doing that, it is just a joke. Be whatever you want, that’s kind of the point.

          • Victor@lemmy.world
            1·
            1 year ago

            I do not, no, I know they can’t. I just don’t like the attitude. If it’s a joke, it’s definitely weird considering the LGBTQ community is under constant pressure to conform to binary gender roles from the rest of society. But then here they’re doing the same thing? Even as a joke? Especially if OP is not part of said community, but I assume they are.

            I just don’t think it’s funny, because I know they don’t enjoy it either. It’s distasteful in my opinion, because the respect needs to be both ways.

    • kttnpunk@lemmy.worldEnglish
      01·
      1 year ago

      Yes, yes yes! The world needs more femboy dads. That said this happened the other way around for me. Just goes to show how much overlap there is among fringe internet cultures- I really wish we could all play nice more often.

    • summerof69@lemm.ee
      01·
      1 year ago

      Well, the OP and at least 600+ people can relate. So clearly something is wrong with you!

  • hardcoreufo@lemmy.world
    3·
    1 year ago

    IDK about that. Everyone I know who uses Linux is pretty vanilla. Or maybe my perspective has just shifted…

  • The Menemen!@lemmy.world
    3·
    1 year ago

    Maybe for you youngsters. We old farts only get to grow a beard and get fat.

    • oatscoop@midwest.socialEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      I feel like a lot of young linux users aren’t getting the talk and it makes me sad. Nobody ever sat them down with a copy of The Very Hungry Caterpillar and explained the life cycle of an IT professional.

      They never learn the natural cycle of things: that at a certain age a lot of IT professionals undergo metamorphosis and transform into beautiful, sock-and-sandal wearing greybeards.

      • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        Nah it’s more-so that the conditions have changed making femboy IT guys less likely to die or be pushed out of the environment and therefore increasing biodiversity which is a net positive for the species as a whole as it indicates good health

    • THCDenton@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 year ago

      Yup. Exactly what happened to me. Guess I could still shave my legs and where thigh-highs 🤷‍♀️

      • lars@lemmy.sdf.org
        2·
        1 year ago

        Seriously make yourself at home in your body. You’re the one living there.

    • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 year ago

      That’s due to oppression by the State and society that doesn’t want to allow our respected graybeards to become the femboy they deserve to be. We nust destroy this oppressive system for the freedom of the greybeards, the gamers, the Gentoo users and all other oppressed peoples ✊🏻

    • occhionaut@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      Lunacy!! What will be next, gay men who dont dress flamboyantly? /s

  • nexussapphire@lemm.eeEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    But I like dem titties. How I get dem titties if I’m a femboy.

    • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 year ago

      Some girls like twinks/femboys.

      Or youncould start taking estrogen and stuff till you have some

  • MonsiuerPatEBrown@reddthat.comEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    Wow I can’t tell you about the history of Unix without talking about brave queer people.

    So haha but not really.

  • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
    2·
    1 year ago

    And the 35 or so odd well adjusted linux folks around that find anime, fishnets, thinkpads, (and all associated memes) to be annoying AF. Esp anime / manga / uwu /waifu / and everything in that microcosm of artistic styling if I’m being honest.

    I just like the software composability discussion in plain English, man, not the side of fries.

    Edit: And anyone who disagrees uses stock Ubuntu unity and unironically thinks it’s both beautiful and just as good as any other distro :P

    • rtxn@lemmy.worldMEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      Friendly reminder about the name of this community. None of this should be taken as anything but a joke.

      • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
        3·
        1 year ago

        Maybe it’s just copium cause his unix socks aren’t as soft as the ones of the Arch femboy next door. (/s)

    • JCreazy@midwest.socialEnglish
      01·
      1 year ago

      I used to think those things were cool… 20 years ago.

      • Avid Amoeba@lemmy.ca
        0·
        1 year ago

        “do I look like a femboy, or gay to you??”

        It’s a half-decent joke but do they actually think that?

        • Ziixe@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          1·
          1 year ago

          Yeah but if you live in places as Eastern Europe there aren’t a lot of “yay LGBT” people (yeah sorry for me saying it that way, couldn’t think of any other way to describe it), especially in the more remote parts (like for example, Prague is like an American city in this regard, a ton of support and stuff, and when I compare it to the middle of nowhere I live in it’s the complete opposite)

          I at least get the luxury that they don’t get the “uwu Linux turned me into a femboy” post on their tiktok fyp (ofc they have that app installed so they can get their daily dose of homophobic bs)

          To note these aren’t my friends but classmates, we had an event a few days ago about learning how to stand up for our opinions and the first thing they pulled out is about this, ofc 95% of all guys in the class went to the “ban and execute” group, they lost their argument since their only opinion was “well it’s not natural”, I hate how they just dragged this for the rest of the event (the next task was to come up with a list of the most common positive opinions of society, ofc since they are the majority of out class the result was “banning LGBTQ”, and not to mention they dragged it for next three days after the event too

          TL;DR

          It just depends on where you live, and what the common opinions there are

    • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
      11·
      1 year ago

      What if those friends are all femboys but they’re too put off by your defensiveness about it to invite you to the femboy orgies LAN parties?

    • Zloubida@lemmy.world
      11·
      1 year ago

      Memes aren’t about truth; memes are about social preconceptions.

  • Jknaraa@lemmy.ml
    2·
    1 year ago

    I have to admit, I have questions about the impact of spending too much time deep inside machine logic territory.

      • ed_cock@feddit.de
        1·
        1 year ago

        I love how a software bug that scrambled his newsgroup subscriptions introduced him to the fandom, that’s so unbelievably nerdy.

        But honestly: Those pipeline memes kinda rub me the wrong way. It feels like fucking with people’s identity by way of stereotyping for… I don’t know, a laugh, if that’s even the point? Saying this as someone who completely fits the furry in IT stereotype.

      • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        I think it was just a half-hearted Darth Vader “NOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooououououououououuouuouuuuuaaaaraaaaaarrrhhgghh”

  • violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    1·
    1 year ago

    Let’s be honest, there is no such thing as an old, fat femboy. There’s a specific unfortunate ED component to femboys.

    • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 year ago

      For me it went

      C64 Crack Intros -> Synth -> Rave -> Ambient -> Linux -> Drugs and alcohol

      • Rustmilian@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        1 year ago

        For me it went, MacOS → Hard Drugs → Windows → Harder Drugs → Linux → Weed

        • bier@feddit.nl
          2·
          1 year ago

          Am I the only one that just did

          Loves computers -> got an engineering degree -> had coworkers I looked up to all using Linux -> started using it myself -> wife and kids

          • DerpyPlayz18@lemm.ee
            1·
            1 year ago

            For me it went Minecraft fan -> technical Minecraft nerd -> computer nerd -> furry -> Linux nerd

        • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
          0·
          1 year ago

          I worked at the NOC for a media company with over 3K employees. They made us use MacBook Pros 13" for our day to day sysadministrative tasks.

          • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
            1·
            1 year ago

            That’s not too bad. They make great ssh clients. For my dev work, I like them for that reason - open Kitty and ssh into my dev box.

            • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
              01·
              1 year ago

              Laptops. Apple laptops. I don’t know but that does not sync well with administering linux networks with for me, personally. God those things were horrible. I don’t ever write it out on my CV that I can work those things, I will actively state in interviews that I have zero X/iOS experience.

              I was a Macintosh fanboy up to circa 2000, after that they changed everything and I can’t stand them anymore. I call them Apple, because Macintosh is a thing of the past.

              • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
                1·
                1 year ago

                The way that I see it is that they’re unix-like laptops that have decent support contracts. Given the choice of an Apple or Windows work laptop, I go with the former. Not because I like Apple (I don’t) but because it’s a unix-like OS which doesn’t require any extra tools to ssh into things plus, it is far more stable than Windows without things constantly breaking after update Tuesday.

                I mean it when I say that I use it as a glorified ssh client. I do all of my work on a remote Linux VM via ssh. The reason that I decided to use Kitty in the first place was to make more use of the laptop hardware because it feels like a bit of a waste of their capabilities. The only other things outside of the terminal that I use with regularity are Chrome and Firefox.

            • frazorth@feddit.uk
              01·
              1 year ago

              FFS, they are awful SSH clients. You can’t even easily split the screen up with multiple terminals, and by default it fucks around with the order of your desktops.

              • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
                1·
                1 year ago

                Maybe the default terminal but that does have tabbing OotB (GUI+T) though, you can just open multiple windows. If you want more than that or something aestheticly pleasing, grab iTerm or Kitty. If you want terminal multiplexing, grab tmux via homebrew. Tiling WM? Amethyst works nicely.

                Plus, you don’t need any abstraction or local VM to scp local files. Bonus: The OS clipboard keys are different than the terminal control sequences.

    • EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world
      0·
      1 year ago

      For me it was learning some basic python -> making some basic programs -> getting tired of having to move stuff to the WSL -> installing Linux -> being a privacy advicate

      Whike at the same time:

      Getting randomly harassed by some dude who thought I was a lesbian (I’m a cis guy) -> becoming even more politically active -> punk -> Joining a party

      And then both paths merged into -> interacting with more queer people -> idk